Preventing a child from being himself is tantamount
to torturing him morally
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Children usually depend on their parents or a legal guardian for accommodation, moral and financial support among other things, and since they do not necessarily have access to appropriate medical treatment due to their age, or the reluctance of the medical profession, trans children face different difficulties than adults.
Transgender status is not properly recognized and accepted by society and this situation means that transgender children may feel the need to hide their situation from parents, family members and friends, until the time comes. where they will feel that the conditions are conducive to this revelation.
The coming out process is a source of tension in many families.
Some parents choose to support their child from the start without asking too many questions. Often, they are the ones who approach an association for help.
Others will gradually accept this new identity, seeking to properly inform themselves about what transidentity is and how they will be able to help their child so that he is well in his personality.
Finally, there are the "parents locked in convictions or certainties" who react very negatively, going so far as to reject the child from the home.
The most "severe" will go so far as to impose "psychiatric therapy" on him to make him pass "his delusional fad". You should know that these "therapies" are useless, dangerous, ineffective, strongly contested by a large part of public opinion and rejected by transgender associations.
These children, already more vulnerable to a multitude of problems, must be well surrounded and loved otherwise, unfortunately, suicide will risk being the end of their suffering. The discomfort of these children comes from their inability to be able to be on the outside, what they really are inside themselves.
Some countries are trying to allow better integration of transgender children into society. For example, in Argentina, a law provides that children, like adults, can use a first name corresponding to the gender identity they have chosen and in California, a 2013 law grants children the right to use facilities (including toilets) corresponding to their gender identity. These situations are only very small steps in favor of transgender children. This allows them to better integrate into the school environment. What is absolutely necessary is legal and social recognition of their claimed gender identity.
The most progressive nation in the field is British Columbia, which simply prohibits parents, with fines, from refusing their child's trans identity !
You should know that a child, from the age of 4, can identify as a boy or a girl. When he ventures to talk about it, most often to his mother, he does so by talking about what he feels in the depths of his personality and not by referring to his external genitalia of which he has nothing. to do. This is the main reason why it is absolutely necessary to listen to him and help him.
Parents who find themselves in a similar situation and who feel helpless can contact an association such as ATW. Qualified and well-trained people will be at their service to help them move forward and help their child to experience their difference in a harmonious way.
I invite you to consult the section entitled "Information for parents" where this very delicate subject is explained.
And for parents insensitive to the suffering of their child, I invite you to meditate on this article of the law which is the foundation of Belgian society :
Article 22bis of the Belgian Constitution
Every child has the right to respect for his moral, physical, psychological and sexual integrity.
Every child has the right to express themselves on any matter that concerns them; his opinion is taken into consideration, taking into account his age and his discernment.
Every child has the right to benefit from the measures and services that contribute to their development.
In any decision that concerns him, the interest of the child is taken into consideration in a primordial way.